Love and Selfish

Love is a grace given by God to every human. Ego is a trait possessed by every human. Love and ego have a very close relationship, especially for new children entering adolescence. But teenagers sometimes misunderstand the meaning of love is caused by the ego. For this reason I wrote this article.

Understanding Love
Love is a feeling of affection and love which is owned by anyone. Whether it's the environment, animals, hobbies, even up to the opposite sex.
There are some words of love that exist in society at large, namely:
1. Love to the opposite sex is often referred to as "Falling in Love". Falling in love can be felt by anyone, anytime, and anywhere.
2. Her love for children adolescents often called "Love Monkey." Love monkeys usually occurs from age 11-12 years. But sometimes there are children who have come to know love at a young age, which is around the age of 7-8 years.
3. "Love at first sight" is a feeling like that appears on when you first met. People who feel it is usually claimed to have himself has fallen in love at first meet.
4. "Love Blind" is based on a feeling like that without any love someone and want to do anything for him without seeing what would happen.

There are several other terms associated with Love.
1. Term used to create a relationship that could be considered the official is "Dating". People who use this term to refer people he liked with the title "boyfriend".
2. "Jealousy" is the attitude of anger or rather do not like if the person likes or maybe "wow" her do something she does not want as close to others than by himself. This term is usually identified with the word "Envy". There is also the name "Blind Jealousy." Feelings of jealousy that arises without any or based on any evidence.
Understanding Ego
Ego is one common human nature which is owned by anyone. Feelings that made her want to do anything for herself. It usually happens without him realizing it. Size of the ego of every man is different, depending on whether the person's ability to hold or not.
Other factors that can make every human dose keegoan that differ are as follows:
1. Environmental factors. Keegoan someone that normally would be difficult to control if the environment is not supportive. As circumstances which required him to do anything to be able to get the best for himself. Usually due to competition, whether it is the competition for living or for money, and so forth.
2. Habit of factors. These factors are still related to Environmental Factors. This factor is caused by a comforting familiarity that are taught by parents to their children so that makes him feel anything she could get.
3. Descendants of factors. This factor is there because the ego is the nature of which can be "reduced" to the offspring. If a parent's ego bigger then his ego would usually great as well. Vice versa

Relations Between the Ego with Love
Feelings of love which we will discuss is the love among teenagers. Because adolescence is a time of peak keegoan someone. There are some interesting phenomena of love among teenagers. Like the phenomenon of "Disconnect one, there are many others" and the phenomenon of "molester and Playboy." The things that we will discuss.

"End one, there are many other"
Assuming the teens about the "End one, there are many others" are not wrong. The words were similar to the proverb "the Dead One, Grow Thousand." But assuming it's probably made him grow sad. Because the more often he's going out, the more often he's hurt, except if he has found a faithful people.

It is closely related to one's ego. In his opinion "Disconnect one, there are many other" that was already showing her selfishness. Because the sentence could mean "He tuh not nothing, there are many others too!". Although it could also intends to encourage the impulse to drowning in sorrow. But by saying so or something like that made him decide not to think about other people's feelings.

"Molester and Playboy"
The word 'cheating' and the word 'playboy' I joined because the 'playboy' is apparently synonymous with cheating. Although not everyone is a playboy who had an affair. And why I only use the word 'playboy' only, and do not use the word 'Playgirl'. Because the most frequently encountered was the playboy, and for me the playboy is the icon of the peselingkuh.

Molester is one of the deviant behavior of a relationship such as dating. Affair occurs because a selfish person can not be controlled. Thereby making them unable to think about other people's feelings, either her boyfriend or affair. Adverse effect of this behavior is tersakitinya molester feelings of others who left for an affair with someone else.

There are several reasons why people want an affair.
1. Because he was feeling bored with girlfriend and want to find new entertainment.
2. Because of the prestige and want to be considered great by a friend because it can have many boyfriends.
3. Because the feeling or love has been shared with others, so he's willing to take risks and having an affair.
While Playboy is the cap given to someone who likes having an affair. But sometimes the seal is also given to people who love mutually boyfriend. Playboy is like having an affair is a person who has the nature of indifference to others and do not care about the circumstances of others, including with whom she was dating. A Playboy will stop being a Playboy if he had found someone who fits with him. Usually it was in when she was entering adulthood can be said that already mature and understand what is good and what is bad.

It all happened due to mere selfishness. These are the most widely experienced by teenagers. In fact there are several parties who hate playboy and sometimes claim that all men are equal. People who like it are people looking with one eye on men. It is not wrong he believes that after he got the sad things like diduakan. But not all men are equal. There are boundaries and the ability of each man to hold her selfishness.

In fact some are blaming the love and hate. Whereas it is clear that the guilty is not love, but his ego. Already explained above that love is a feeling of affection which nature makes us feel good. If something happened that resulted in feelings of sadness, then it do not mean love. If anyone deserves blame, then blame it on yourself and ask "Egokah I?". If you feel you are not selfish, so be patient that you will get the best.

However, there are things more important for us to remember. That the ego exists in every human being and we must memakluminya. Especially on such a relationship dating, selfishness is a fairness to every teen. If you want to succeed in love, so be patient. (Fs)