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Love and Selfish

Love is a grace given by God to every human. Ego is a trait possessed by every human. Love and ego have a very close relationship, especially for new children entering adolescence. But teenagers sometimes misunderstand the meaning of love is caused by the ego. For this reason I wrote this article.

Understanding Love
Love is a feeling of affection and love which is owned by anyone. Whether it's the environment, animals, hobbies, even up to the opposite sex.
There are some words of love that exist in society at large, namely:
1. Love to the opposite sex is often referred to as "Falling in Love". Falling in love can be felt by anyone, anytime, and anywhere.
2. Her love for children adolescents often called "Love Monkey." Love monkeys usually occurs from age 11-12 years. But sometimes there are children who have come to know love at a young age, which is around the age of 7-8 years.
3. "Love at first sight" is a feeling like that appears on when you first met. People who feel it is usually claimed to have himself has fallen in love at first meet.
4. "Love Blind" is based on a feeling like that without any love someone and want to do anything for him without seeing what would happen.

There are several other terms associated with Love.
1. Term used to create a relationship that could be considered the official is "Dating". People who use this term to refer people he liked with the title "boyfriend".
2. "Jealousy" is the attitude of anger or rather do not like if the person likes or maybe "wow" her do something she does not want as close to others than by himself. This term is usually identified with the word "Envy". There is also the name "Blind Jealousy." Feelings of jealousy that arises without any or based on any evidence.
Understanding Ego
Ego is one common human nature which is owned by anyone. Feelings that made her want to do anything for herself. It usually happens without him realizing it. Size of the ego of every man is different, depending on whether the person's ability to hold or not.
Other factors that can make every human dose keegoan that differ are as follows:
1. Environmental factors. Keegoan someone that normally would be difficult to control if the environment is not supportive. As circumstances which required him to do anything to be able to get the best for himself. Usually due to competition, whether it is the competition for living or for money, and so forth.
2. Habit of factors. These factors are still related to Environmental Factors. This factor is caused by a comforting familiarity that are taught by parents to their children so that makes him feel anything she could get.
3. Descendants of factors. This factor is there because the ego is the nature of which can be "reduced" to the offspring. If a parent's ego bigger then his ego would usually great as well. Vice versa

Relations Between the Ego with Love
Feelings of love which we will discuss is the love among teenagers. Because adolescence is a time of peak keegoan someone. There are some interesting phenomena of love among teenagers. Like the phenomenon of "Disconnect one, there are many others" and the phenomenon of "molester and Playboy." The things that we will discuss.

"End one, there are many other"
Assuming the teens about the "End one, there are many others" are not wrong. The words were similar to the proverb "the Dead One, Grow Thousand." But assuming it's probably made him grow sad. Because the more often he's going out, the more often he's hurt, except if he has found a faithful people.

It is closely related to one's ego. In his opinion "Disconnect one, there are many other" that was already showing her selfishness. Because the sentence could mean "He tuh not nothing, there are many others too!". Although it could also intends to encourage the impulse to drowning in sorrow. But by saying so or something like that made him decide not to think about other people's feelings.

"Molester and Playboy"
The word 'cheating' and the word 'playboy' I joined because the 'playboy' is apparently synonymous with cheating. Although not everyone is a playboy who had an affair. And why I only use the word 'playboy' only, and do not use the word 'Playgirl'. Because the most frequently encountered was the playboy, and for me the playboy is the icon of the peselingkuh.

Molester is one of the deviant behavior of a relationship such as dating. Affair occurs because a selfish person can not be controlled. Thereby making them unable to think about other people's feelings, either her boyfriend or affair. Adverse effect of this behavior is tersakitinya molester feelings of others who left for an affair with someone else.

There are several reasons why people want an affair.
1. Because he was feeling bored with girlfriend and want to find new entertainment.
2. Because of the prestige and want to be considered great by a friend because it can have many boyfriends.
3. Because the feeling or love has been shared with others, so he's willing to take risks and having an affair.
While Playboy is the cap given to someone who likes having an affair. But sometimes the seal is also given to people who love mutually boyfriend. Playboy is like having an affair is a person who has the nature of indifference to others and do not care about the circumstances of others, including with whom she was dating. A Playboy will stop being a Playboy if he had found someone who fits with him. Usually it was in when she was entering adulthood can be said that already mature and understand what is good and what is bad.

It all happened due to mere selfishness. These are the most widely experienced by teenagers. In fact there are several parties who hate playboy and sometimes claim that all men are equal. People who like it are people looking with one eye on men. It is not wrong he believes that after he got the sad things like diduakan. But not all men are equal. There are boundaries and the ability of each man to hold her selfishness.

In fact some are blaming the love and hate. Whereas it is clear that the guilty is not love, but his ego. Already explained above that love is a feeling of affection which nature makes us feel good. If something happened that resulted in feelings of sadness, then it do not mean love. If anyone deserves blame, then blame it on yourself and ask "Egokah I?". If you feel you are not selfish, so be patient that you will get the best.

However, there are things more important for us to remember. That the ego exists in every human being and we must memakluminya. Especially on such a relationship dating, selfishness is a fairness to every teen. If you want to succeed in love, so be patient. (Fs)

Human Normal With Extraordinary Personal

Human beings are the most perfect creation of God, he is a leader on earth who was entrusted by God Almighty to preserve the earth where nature is grounded and all its contents. Human perfection even exist at all deficiencies and weaknesses. Human beings think that has a passion, emotion, ambition, greed, selfishness but also will never be able to live alone. Being a human being is a human life with all the gifts given by the Almighty as previously mentioned. All the passion, emotion and ambition, greed and selfishness of all human beings belong, characterizes the human. These characteristics make the human to be perfect.

However, is there any human desire to be an unusual human? to be a remarkable human being? Human unusual or extraordinary man who was not measured because of their versatility, his fame or his wealth. But can the ordinary people who are not smart, not rich nor famous and become a man great? The answer is certainly CAN. How?

There is only one word to become a man of remarkable self control. The man who can resist his passion when he had become very anxious. Humans that may reduce the anger and emotion at the time he was in the peak of anger and emotion. Humans can use ratio and emotion in reaching ambitions. Human greed at the heart rule the understanding to share. The man who knows that another man also have the same interests with himself.

Thus an ordinary human would be a remarkable when realizing that he is full of flaws, that the lack of it is perfection. Allah Almighty may His love will always be a light and give guidance, so that ordinary people become extraordinary. Amen

Equanimity

There was a problem there must be the solution, you know my friend, in Ath-Thalaq QS (65): 7 Allaoh says:
"Allah will give spaciousness after the narrowness (etc.)"

There is no suffering in this life, unless the person making himself there menderita.Tidak
and weighing the difficulty of anything in this world, except the results from the fruit of his own thoughts. It's up to us, which would be brought into this life. Want to take difficult, surely things will become difficult. If we choose this path, then please, just this thought persulit. Want to take this complicated life will surely always seems complicated. Perumitlah keep our minds if this path is most preferred. Still, all the results and would seem, can not, only we ourselves who must feel and menaggung consequences.

However, if life was about to be made into sandwich narrow the field, everything looks complicated convoluted should be made into a simple, and everything seems blurry, gray, even black pitch, should be made clear and bright, so try to feel the effects.

It turned out that this world is no longer seemed shrunken, small sandwich, and tangled. Looking at this life feels like standing on top of the tower and stared wide stretches of blue sky studded nan stars, with light cast soft moonlight, making everything look more beautiful, more spacious, and very impressive. Allahu Akbar!

Indeed, the
"Verily, Allah does not do injustice to any human being, but that's what people do wrong to themselves" (Sura Yunus [11]: 44).

Though he has been expressly guaranteed through His Word,
"Allah will give spaciousness after narrowness (etc.)" (QS ath-Thalaq [65]: 7).

Mood Control
The key apparently lies in our skills in controlling mood. How? One of the most effective way is, when dealing with other human beings, we should never busy to remember the words that never sounded painful. Nor should we imagine the look on his face was busy being angry and cynical, he had done in days past.

Once the hearts and our minds began to slip into feeling like that, quick-quick control. Soon, this shift of mood by remembering all the good that is ever done to us, no matter how small. Recall when he had smiled upon us. Remember to shake hands so sincere or rangkulannya so full of friendship. Or, is not it the other day he had offered to eat with you or offer you goodness goodness.

In short, remember, remember only the good things-good course, once he did, as he dashed from the memory at all of our minds all the bad things he may have done.

Allaah the Almighty was tossing and turning the hearts of His servants. We will be surprised to discover the results. How quickly things have changed just after we struggled to change all that bad to look good.

Got older it was not enough just with age, science, or the rank and position. We grew up just when able to recognize and control it with a good heart. This is the key to reveal the real inner peace.

When we hit a romance, for example. Even if not ever want to ask ourselves, then we'll drop it gelinjang buffeted by the passions. Similarly, if we are overwhelmed with anger arousal. Had not ever want to control the heart, will be made because of our woe will be the prevailing mayhem on others.

Therefore, we should really have the time and seriousness to be watched all the movements and behavior of this heart. Lest we slip into arrogance we unknowingly. Do-do we have destroyed reward deeds done without us ever realize. Lest we are including people who love to apply unjust towards others without us realizing it. If this happens, the less wealth that can be packed our return to the hereafter? Is not every charity that we do that-there he was pious, or charitable deeds belonging to one heart-in fact depend on this?

We're going to fight, fight against keangkaramurkaan, berkuah sweat blood. But, as long as the liver becomes riya fight, want to be praised and called a hero; do not realize that such deeds in Allah's dry value, no value at all?

Becoming preachers, speaking convey Islamic teachings. Heard by hundreds or even thousands of people. Go far to various places, spend so many time and draining and minds. However, there will be no price on the side of God when the heart is not sincere. Just want to be praised and respected, so feel themselves the most noble, or even more fatal, because the motivation just to get a reward.

Similarly, when we left for the pilgrimage, takes dozens of days and traveled thousands of miles. The body was scorched scorching sun and jostling with the millions of human beings. But, if not accompanied by God's intentions, just want to praise it gets frill title hajj, then na'udzubillah, all this is not precious in the sight of Allah.

Why are jobs that have been redeemed by the sacrifice of so great in fact led to a sense of futility? It turned out that cause-and-musababnnya originate in negligence and inability to control mood. For, once a person is accompanied riya charity, ujub, or sum'ah (just looking for popularity), it can not, his mind will be occupied only by the question of how humans came to be praised. Once a compliment it does not come, the hearts were stricken sertamerta miserable. When you have this, when will again be obtained by the tranquility of life, besides the contrary, the days will always digelayuti feeling restless, anxious, disappointed, and miserable?

Ikhlas intention
Therefore, if we are not yet capable of doing great deeds, is it not better to maintain good works that may seem small and trivial by continually improving and maintaining the intention to always sincere and true? This is what it will be brought peace of mind, so God willing, will also produce an atmosphere of life to the cool, spacious, beautiful and impressive.

Hopefully with our ability to improve and maintain sincere intentions at heart when doing small deeds, the one day of God Almighty is pleased mengkaruniakan ability to be able to voluntarily when his time comes we must do good deeds are greater.

Large or small a practice that is done in this life, if it is based on a sincere heart and intentions as he accompanied the right way, will undoubtedly give birth ihsan attitude. Namely, we will always feel the presence of God in every move, so that in each pulse, we will always remember him.

This is a condition that would make the heart always feel the coolness and tranquility.
"Alaa bi dzikrillaahii tathma 'Inul qulub" (Surat ar-Ra'd [13]: 28), so God has provided a guarantee. Remember, only the remembrance of Allah do hearts become peaceful!

By Allah there is no other choice. We must be constantly wary of this heart. Do not destroy yourself secretly, without our even realizing it. Have gained little reward, the liver could not be restrained, so that the corrupted value of our deeds from time to time. Na'udzubillaah!

Thus, other than we're used to a shower to cleanse the body is born, we too must have something to do to "bathe" the heart of this. Besides we eat to satiate the stomach, we too must "eat" something that can make this heart filled. In addition to dressing to spruce up our appearance, we should busy "primp" tidying our hearts. And besides we diligently look in the mirror to adorn the face, we also do not forget to also diligent, industrious "mirrored" to adorn the heart.

All this is nothing that we have the ability to investigate senatiasa intent or bad behavior and foul, conscious or not, may we never do. That would be more helpful than we are busy spying vices of others, which means that only cheating yourself purely and absolutely will not bring peace of mind.

Strengthen the heart and mind to face the test of God who would not whack each of us who believe in God. Life is a test, so that we shall easily in our life hereafter, amen. Our long wait, is not fruitful happy smile, a chance to gain a great reward it soon. By continuing to believe in Allah,