Between love and care

When you LOVE someone, you want to have it for your own selfishness

When you love someone, you'd love to make him happy and not for yourself
When you LOVE someone, you'll do anything for his happiness even if you have to sacrifice your soul
When you LOVE someone and be with her then you will ask, "Can I kiss you?"
When you love someone and be with her then you will ask, "Can I hug you?"
When you love someone and be there and you'll be clutching his hand ...
LIKE is when he cries, you will say "Please, do not cry."
LOVE is when he will cry and you cry with him.
LOVE is when he cries and you're going to let him cry beside you, saying, "Let's settle this problem together."
 
LIKE is when you see it from outer appearance and not because of his heart.
LOVE is when you see it, you'll see it from your heart and not from your eyes.
LOVE is when you see it you'll say, "To me he is the most wonderful gift God ever gave to me ..
At the time of the person you LIKE to hurt you, then you will be angry and do not want to talk to him.
At the time of the person you LOVE to hurt you, you will weep for him.
At the time of the person you love hurts you, you'll say, "Not what he just did not know what he was doing."
By the time you LIKE him, you will force him to like you.
By the time you LOVE him, you're going to let CHOOSE.
By the time you LOVE him, you'll always be waiting for him with a loyal and sincere ...
LIKE is that you'll stay with her if it was profitable
LOVE is that you will accompany him when he needed
LOVE is when you will accompany him in any circumstances
LIKE is a case that requires
LOVE is a matter of give and take
LOVE is the thing that gives it willingly

Treating Heart Wounds

Emmm this time, my heart is still stable, does not hurt even if I did not deny that hurting the situation. I believe I am not alone, I am sure we all have to face the cut moments in our lives. It does not matter what the cause is certain to face even the times when the cut is a very painful and painful. The whole spirit of struggle is in itself may be lost for good, before the fun can only be depressed and lifeless. I take this title from the slot motivation plan in RTM Selamat Pagi Malaysia published a few days ago. I am interested in this topic because it is not a foreign in our personal lives. Because there is interest and curiosity, I followed up to slot the motivation to finally, about the 30minit publication.

Treating heart is really hurt is not easy. Sometimes there are people who take years to heal the wounded heart. In fact, there is also a saving sense of hurt inside forever. Menggapa ya? Perhaps because the feeling of revenge that is too thick in themselves. But not impossible to heal wounded hearts again. It all depends on our own determination to get out of the feeling of hurt it. Experts also recommend that the motivation to go out of the feeling of hurt. Do not leave without cure wounded heart.

We can lie in the general audience by saying "my usual, I am happy with what I went through, my heart is not sick and injured again .." Yes, we can only state like that, but trust experts to assess behavior (body language) can definitely feel there is something you hide. It's a sadness hidden in your soul close your key. Finally, your own eyes to suffer and radiation often can not hide what terbuku in your chest.

For those who are ill, those who are injured, treat the injury. Do not let it continue to be a cancer in your personal life. It does not live forever to laugh, but life's not forever menanggisi injury. Life is a balance between the spiritual and physical among the excitement and injury.

While the emotion of sadness or hurt us so often unstable, so the thought of panic. As if there was something very oppressive chest till it difficult to breathe, feels like menanggis and do not know what to do. That's what I feel, you may feel different to what I feel. Usually when they are in this situation, I try menyibukkan themselves and not think about it. I always persuade my heart to become stronger and more relaxed. One who is holding me all these years is, 'everything on earth is only temporary, hence the difficulty and the injury is temporary. Gradually all will end and return to normal 'we need a strong heart, calm and pleased to receive it. Another, often when you are in sad circumstances, I avoid tonal Jiwang songs. I prefer to hear the songs participating pace to treat depression. I also always set a limit that all the pain and injury that I can not continue to go through for months. So when it set period of time 'mourning' my best efforts to find a way to forget all that injury. Everything depends on us. How you may differ with me but the goal remains the same, namely to treat the wounded heart

She's My Love

I never saw him as perfect beings. Sesiapa who saw her face would not teruja. He's genial and modest self. Clever movement, bring out movement. Anyone who was around him, must feel himself the most attention.

She was simple, not too high nor too low. Bright-skinned, not too pale nor too dark. Very unkempt hair, not too kerinting nor too straight. Boxed tersikat Mencecah shoulder, in a portion of the edge of the hair almost mencecah ear lobe. It says there are nearly 20 uric gray hair of his head, kerana always thinking of others. His eyes were large, thin heel. Broad forehead, wide chest area.

He's my lover, my prophet, he was the messenger of Allah, Muhammad. King, noble beings.

His life was filled with kezuhudan. Adequately with what is, has become sebati in life. That is fastening my love to him.

Ever offered to become a king and a prophet like Solomon and David, but chose to become a servant and messenger. Apostle title servant, was his choice.

Key luxury world in his hands. But simplicity is chosen, even less than that. Ever saidina Umar entered the house of the prophet Muhammad, was surprised when he found the king's house shortage sundries. No perabut and jewelry. King slept on mats midrib, sometimes above ground only, leaving marks on the body of the king. Umar then requested that the prophet Muhammad prayed to his people so that extended the provision so rich, actually granted the luxury of Rome and Persia in a state they do not believe. Then answered the king,

I do not turn with the world, but like a merchant who was traveling, and then berehat immediately below the main hedge. After an instant, he will leave hedge vine.

The food is quite simple. Being a king's kitchen habits for three months without smoke. The main food is Tamar and empty the water tremble. Had to eat bread, the king will choose the cheapest bread. Dicicah with vinegar sake only. Never eat berhidang luxury. King never eats bread and meat at dinner and supper tengahari simultaneously in a day, but when visited by the guests' sake only.

His clothes also do not describe the luxury. Najran fond of wearing robes and Qatar. Rough cloth. Habit of choosing the color white. Shawl (izar) turban, sentiasa tersemat in the king's shoulder.

The departure does not leave anything behind. Even when death, war shields pledged to a Jew to get wheat flour.

However, the king left the love had gone. Love that is unparalleled. Love that if disahut, even with syafa'at diganjari big future in the Day of Judgement.

Warm really love me, and also on the overall race. So that at any moment picked your death, who play in our minds is fikiranmu is, as your people. Ummati, ummati, ummati.

O my beloved, my heart lights. Let the best and congratulations invocation of God rather than streaming keatasmu. Kurniakan God the deep longing to see you in the hereafter. God the desire to obey sunnahmu mencambah, sedayaku termampu.

He's my lover, she lover. My master Muhammad.

Motivation: Dealing with Life Issues

Consider the title. "Facing the Problems of Life." Not "Living the Life Issues." Harder for us to get out of the problems in life, if we are still down and drowned in it. Instantly we meniatkan to "face", realize that we are actually already "out" of the problem.

What is important for us is to answer the question, "what's next?". The absence of answers to this question, it will make us come back "entrance" into the matter. Yes, indeed, a magnet from every problem tends to be very large. We can not deny this is a matter that requires learning the art of living. When necessary for life. Let's learn together.

1. BSE

So, our best efforts the first is an awareness of the existence of matter and about understanding how to separate "self" from "problem". Most of what is written here is the art of it.

"It Is not That they want can not see the solution. It's that they want can not see the problem. "
G. K. Chesterton

2. THANK

Never deny the existence of the problem. If he really and truly, thank first. Separate these two things: "no problem" and "I have a problem." When we feel frustrated, then we really are in trouble to separate these two perspectives. Be aware.

"You will not find a solution by saying 'there is no problem."
William Rotsler

3. SOLUTION is in it

Every problem, certainly always carry the seeds of completion. And whose name seeds, nature is suitable for growing. So the issue or problem, is about how God really is to grow and mature us.

We can dive into again the meaning of Surah Al-Sharh (Natural Nasyrah) in our holy book.

"Verily with difficulty that there is ease."
(QS.94: 6)

"If you do not have any problems, you do not get any seeds."
Norman Vincent Peale

4. Settle

The problem will only be passed if it were completed.

"The best way to escape from your problem is to solve it"
Dr. Robert Anthony

"The best way out is always through."
Helen Keller

Learn about how and systematic patterns in solving problems. Learn auditing for various problems.

5. Raise LEVEL THINKING

Our problem appears on a level or way of thinking. That problem will be solved only if we raise our level of thinking. This can be done by learning the ins and outs of the issue and to train a problem solving mindset.

The easiest way: Lower level of importance of the problem. This can be done by asking questions that test the level of interest problems.

This exercise will familiarize himmah (inclination, desire, intention, determination, will, spirit, attitude liked or loved, love) the hearts and our mindset, to the other things that much better for ourselves.

"Is this problem really a problem?"
"What is 'this problem' is the only way I view it?"
"Is there something better than what is the problem?"

There are so many things that we consider the problem, actually only a trivial issue. "Problem" of this kind can be done precisely by not regard it as a problem.

Face it the only really a problem.

"Problems Can not be solved at the Same level of awareness That created Them."
Albert Einstein

6. IF NECESSARY: Writing

If we deem necessary, write down the problems we face. Give all the details that we can think of. By doing this, we can begin to organize, select, and sort out the main points that we face problems.

7. SEARCH SOLUTIONS

We're not going to find, if we are not looking.

Always trying to find a solution. Understand, if we seek we will find. We may not know when, but surely, we would find. Keep looking.

Patience, do not despair, and never give up.

8. TIME USE WITH WISDOM

Fill out our time with the search, find, and develop solutions. Be solution-oriented people. Please stop questioning and start asking. Questioning is a sign not received, and asked is the opposite.

Use only a little time to problems, and quickly move to find a solution.

9. Proportional

Do not let our problems become bigger than ourselves. Remember that "often", not necessarily synonymous with "large".

Each issue will be aturable (can be managed), when the problem can be translated into small fragments of the steps we need to take.

10. BE TRUE

Develop and train the right attitude to every problem. Practice for skilled 10/90 Principle by Stephen Covey. 10% is a fact, 90% is attitude.

If it is used, then we would call a "problem" will become a "learning experience" and "opportunity".

"10% of life is made up of What Happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react."
Stephen Covey

11. DO NOT SEE NO PROBLEM

Use the power of our imagination to find solutions. Do not use to dangle a problem that does not exist.

Hopefully useful.

"Verily with difficulty that there is ease."
(QS.94: 6)

In fact, with a difficulty, there are two (at least) easy. The first ease is when we "face" and not "live". Ease second is when we shift the focus to the Most Compassionate and Merciful.

Do not we have ruled to uphold his weight with the County of two things' that will be a relief that help?

Patience and prayer.

Troubleshooting Living with optimized strength within us

In life, the problem must have always existed. But there's no problem that could not be overcome. And we as humans play a key role in addressing a problem.

As anticipated Mas Alhijr Adwitiya here. Hopefully, this post contains these simple tips can be valuable for our common reflection. For then we ACTION her in daily life kita.Silakan see five tips to overcome problems of life by optimizing the power within us as a source of solutions.

* The Power of destitute. Particularly associated with the work attitude procrastinate, one way to solve this with using the power of the destitute. Tell us when we have time soon. Maybe five minutes or 10 minutes to finish the job we should do. Maybe even with a more extreme statement, saying that this might be the last activity that we can do in this world. I'm sure we'll do it with great seriousness and no more delays. During the short time we will hit the work fast. In our destitute situation can often act extraordinary.
* Love What You Do. Whatever your profession or occupation, and no matter what you do, do it with great affection. When we love what we do, there's no word lazy, no bad words, no word desperate. Do what you love and happiness will follow you. Could be in the form of money or other things far more happy that can not be exchanged only by wealth.
* STOP Negative Thinking. Positive and negative are two things that always will coexist until whenever. But if we are always just stuck in a puddle of negative thoughts will never be a time to see a problem with clarity. Suppose we say "ah it's difficult", "how could I," and all similar statements see only the negative aspects of a case.
Immediately switch your attention on something positive. On a good opportunity and a positive chance of any thing or event that occurred. Able as an opportunity to learn, to become a better human being, to obtain additional income, to build a broader network, to achieve your ideals, or whatever.
If we look at the positive side, and not on the negative side, the fear that had been spread on your self will be reduced. And you will feel a better person, more optimistic, and energetic.
* Make Commitments. Sometimes I hear an example pengkomentar mengetakan'm losing motivation or less eager to live. The key, Commit to be honest with ourselves. Make a commitment to live a better life from seconds to seconds, from minute to minute, from hour to an hour, from day to day, and from one activity to the next.
Then say that commitment to the people around you. Tell developments or activities you have done related to your commitment no matter how small it was in people who have told you earlier.
We must be responsible for the commitments already made. Please do not make ashamed of ourselves. Make the commitment we have said as a guard our spirits.
* Start ACTION only. Yes, just the next ACTION. We started ACTION, then you start moving. No longer in the same place. You've done an upswing. No matter how small it was! Instead of just worrying about things that are not clear or daydream without the base of the tip, began ACTION only. Everything will be easier when you start ACTION.

May be useful for us all. Greet Monday full of energy after tomorrow.